06-11-2009, 05:52 PM
Dustie Wrote:You're playing word games now. Go look up the definition of monogamous. You didn't say "by nature" in your original thread either.
That is exactly what I was saying originally. You just took what I said out of context and ran with it. Go re-read my original comment.
Hoof said" One day I'm going to discover that monogamy is actually a genetic trait that some men don't share."
I said "None of us are monogamous. Some of us just have more self control."
In other words I was saying that no Men are monogamous however that doesn't mean men don't have the ability to control themselves. Somehow you turned this into Vllad condones cheating, or all men cheat. /shrug
I am not playing word games, I am clarifying what I am saying until you understand my meaning.
Dustie Wrote:Anyway, that's not even the point. I'm simply labeling your assertion that all men are not monogamous as wrong. Thudz and I are two examples. Again, you're assertion is wrong. To me, that's not women speak, that's honesty.
Again not cheating on your wife doesn't make you monogamous. Just because you practice monogamy doesn't make you monogamous. Men instinctually are not monogamous and have to learn to fight those instincts to practice monogamy. I have been married probably as long as Thudz and you combined and I never cheated on Vanna. That doesn't make me monogamous either.
This is as factual as gravity so I am not sure how you can even argue the point.
Dustie Wrote:Now don't get all upset (i.e. calling me a women) and think that I'm saying "all men who have cheated are assholes." Everyone makes mistakes, I understand that, that's fine. I just want to combat the notion that "everyone makes mistakes, therefore, lets not even try to do better, lets just jump on the it's-ok-to-cheat train"
I am not upset and I am not really sure what to say about the rest of your sentence.
How do you take "none of us are monogamous. Some of us just have more self control" and turn that into "everyone makes mistakes" and "its ok to cheat"? I am the one saying men can control themselves and not cheat!
Vllad